I just read a book called The Five Love Languages. I think everyone should read this book. I do not think you should read it because it is the greatest book ever written. I think you should read it because you will gain insight into how you need to be loved.
According to the book the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Everyone needs to receive their primary love language to feel loved. When you are shown love through your primary love language you will feel fulfilled. The book calls this keeping the love tank full. Most people show love with the language that they want to be loved.
Since we had the baby, I have not felt as loved as I have in the many years of our marriage. Every one tells me that is what happens when you have a child. But after reading this book I realized that my primary love language is quality time and since the baby we have not had that much quality time. I now understand why I have been feeling the way I have when Nathen has helped out more than he ever has in the past, which is not easy on him because I like things done a certian way and I have a problem with criticizing when things are not done my way. He has been doing more acts of service when what I need is quality time.
Another thing I learned is on receiving gifts. Before I read the book I did not understood women that need gifts from their husbands. Now I see that is how they feel loved if that is their primary love languge.
Nathen and I rearley do gifts between each other during the holidays. I have friends that feel unloved if they do not get presents. If Nathen does get me a present I am usually upset how much he spent on something. This is because receiving gifts is not one of my love languges.
I am going to show Nathen love through his primary love languge and see if it works like the book says. I think giving him love the way he needs will because it makes sense to me.
Thanks to the two people who talked about the love languages over cards. You made me love my husband more rathen than bash on him like most women.
